I read something recently that made me mad. Angry, confused and uncertain. So you’d better stand back.

I was under the impression the part women most frequently play in domestic violence is getting abused, bashed and sometimes even killed. Apparently not.

Dr Sallee McLaren, a clinical psychologist, wrote that there’s a “50-50 contribution to the final outcome of violence”.

She says, in relation to her work in domestic violence, “I have to retrain her exactly as much as I have to retrain him to correct this situation”.

Retrain her? Let’s just read that again. Retrain HER?

To summarise her central contention, if women just hardened up and put their foot down when a man escalates to a four out of 10 on the anger scale, he’d never get to 10/10. That bloke needs to learn, and she needs to be tough enough to teach him.